First of all, I know, I know, it’s been over a week since my last post. With school kicking into high gear and just for the sake of my own sanity, I’ve decided to post every Wednesday instead of every Monday and Friday. This gives me plenty of time to make sure that the content I’m creating for all of you is as wonderful as it should be.
Secondly, since it’s Valentine’s Day, I only thought it appropriate to write some sort of post related to love. And then I remembered how hopelessly single I am and decided that writing a post for all of my other single people out there would be more my style. So, keep on reading to find out what I’ve learned in all my years of being single!
I am nineteen years old and I have never been in a relationship. I figured that’s the best place to start. Of course, I had “boyfriends” in elementary school. You know, the kids whose hands you would hold on the playground, the kids you would sit next to at lunch, the kids who would get you a special Valentine’s Day card that was different from the ones they handed out to the rest of the class. But never in my nineteen years of existing have I ever had a real relationship.
I used to be embarrassed by it. It seemed like I was always the odd man out, the one whose Friday night plans never involved a significant other but almost always involved a Netflix binge session and consuming way more junkfood than I needed to. Now I’ve come to the realization that there’s nothing wrong with being single. Don’t get me wrong, I would still love to find that special someone who can join my Netflix binge sessions, but I’m also perfectly content with being on my own.
Being single has given me the constant opportunity to focus on improving myself instead of worrying about helping an SO better themselves. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but being able to focus solely on yourself and your own journey to becoming a better you…it’s a pretty good feeling. It’s a heck of a lot less stressful, that’s for sure.
Being single has also given me the opportunity to form closer and tighter connections with my friends. The time that I might spend with an SO can instead be spent having dinner with my girlfriends, or catching a movie with my roommates. That free time that would be occupied if I had a boyfriend really gives me the chance to strengthen the most important relationships in my life and it’s something I take full advantage of.
Being single in general is a really great thing. Not just because of the reasons I mentioned above, but because of the tons of other things you hear about the single life: the freedom to go out and flirt with whoever you want, being able to look like a bum because you don’t have anyone to impress, and just the ability to do your own thing without anyone else holding you back.
Now, this is not me saying that people in relationships have it bad or that they’re inherently miserable because of said-relationships. Not at all! Being in love and having an SO is a really amazing thing, just like being single is a really amazing thing. So whatever your relationship status is this Valentine’s Day, it has a lot of incredible perks. Whether you’re a single pringle or you’re currently cuddling on the couch with your SO, enjoy it. Enjoy being single and living life for yourself and enjoy being in a relationship and having a loving support system you can always count on. Just enjoy your life and allow yourself to be content with whatever your relationship status is rather than allowing yourself to be defined by it.